Tuesday, May 25, 2010

2 Posts in 1 Day

I'm so f-ing mad.. You will never believe what Mr. Muscle did. So you know about my job (or lack thereof) situation, right? Well we've talked about it and decided - or at least that's what I thought - that if I didn't get a job by the 2nd week in June, sadly we would have to postpone since that's when I wanted to send out invites.

Well anyway, Mr. Muscle decided to take it upon himself and tell practically everyone that the wedding was off until further notice. It's only May 25th and I know June is almost here but it's not the deadline yet. Now today my Dad who is not in the greatest health is not going to be coming from St.Lucia to the wedding. It saddens me but I understand. Today when I told him about possibly postponing, he said he would pay the balance of our venue cost. That was our biggest issue. Everything else is almost done or practically paid for. That basically solves things and here is my darling fiance telling people the wedding's off.

I'm fuming now. Now he feels that he can't go back and tell them it's back on. Like it's somehow embarrassing to do so.  He even told his groomsmen and says that the people may have made alternate plans already. WTF???!!! At this point I don't care who can or cannot come. I just want this wedding over. He says he still wants to marry me of course but we have to do it right. What does that mean. No, we have to do it the way we want to.
I'm sorry about this rant but I just really needed to vent. Thanks y'all.

JEM.

16 comments:

  1. (((hugs)))

    I hope that everything resolves itself soon.

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  2. Aw hope everything works out! Sounds stressful :(

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  3. I’m so sorry. It sounds like such a difficult situation, and I’ll definitely be keeping you in my thoughts today.

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  4. I feel your heart girl. Being in your shoes, I totally know & understand the anger, frustration, sadness, tension...all of the above! BUT, all things WILL work out, whatever you guys decide to do with the date. My fiance was laid off the year we were to get married, & he was the same as your fiance as far as wanting to go into marriage the right way, not just to go ahead and hurry up. He is NOT a people pleaser, lol. I didn't like that, especially after save the dates had already been sent & some ppl had even booked flights & rooms. Strangely enough, I have found myself truly blessed in this new waiting process....I have time to better prepare not only as a bride, but as a wife.

    Only you two know the intimate details of what needs to happen with the date. Whether you keep it or postpone it, just know you have followers who love you & support you!!! We got your back!!! I hope you guys do whatever your heart really desires! Best wishes, & you know you can email me anytime. :)

    xoxoxoxo Hang in there! I know it isn't easy.

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  5. *hugs* how frustrating! I hope things work out, and that you'll be able to continue with your plans. and remember, breathe! you'll get through this!

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  6. Oh Jem I'm so sorry. *Hugs* It sounds like you really want your dad at your wedding (I know I do!). Maybe sitting down in a neutral (not your home) location and writing down the 3 things that matter most in a wedding to each of you, then exchanging those pieces of paper and starting the discussion (over) there might help in the short term. In this way each of you can share what "do it right" means to you.

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  7. I don't think there is any embarrassment in telling them the wedding is back on. It was a financial situation that has since been sorted so the day can go on. Plus you don't owe anyone any explanations. Sorry you are going through this lady! Hang in there! Hope it gets sorted out soon!

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  8. Sorry to hear about the stress you're going through! I agree with Chocolate Lover...I don't think it's embarrassing to tell people it's back on. They are family and friends who love you and should certainly understand. Hope everything works out for you!

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  9. WHAT?!?!? Ok, I'm not as good as these ladies - I'm mad FOR you!! My man would be walkin REAL funny for a couple days if he did that without talking to me first.

    That said, I agree with CL & Ghenet. Just tell everyone it's back on - but only do it IF you're going to go through with it, otherwise it'll be too much back & forth. If you cancel will City Island give you back the permit $? I say go through with it!

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  10. Wow I'm so so sorry. This is a terrible situation you're in!

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  11. nooo!! i'm so sorry. this is ridiculous. you need to have a serious sit down with mr. muscle and let him know how much that upset you! you can't just pick up and postpone things without talking about it first!! thinking of you today and sending positive thoughts!

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  12. I freakin love you ladies! Thank you soooo much for all your support and allowing me to vent. Mr. Muscle has been working late for the last 2 days so tonight we're going to really have a heart - to heart to make a final plan or decision as to what we're doing.

    My mantra these days, "Less Stress - More Love"!

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  13. Goodluck tonight. I'll be thinking good thoughts for you. *hugs*

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  14. Good luck talking tonight! I have to say I agree with the many thoughts posted here... it is NOT embarrasing to say the wedding is back on- it is a celebration & a blessing. "People might have other plans..." The people that love you and matter most will move heaven and earth to attend your wedding no matter when it is... plans made this quickly can be canceled or changed in exchange for a wedding. I would have a long conversation with Mr. Muscle about talking to everyone about this without you... before the deadline. Being on the same page with commmunication is less about the wedding and more about the marriage.

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  15. I'm so so so sorry to hear this! And I agree with the ladies above, it is not embarrasing to tell people the wedding is back on - I'm sure they would all be so happy for you.

    Stay positive and have a talk with your fiance when both of you are more calm. Sending good thoughts your way!

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  16. I love that your dad is going to help you guys out but im sorry that he is sick and cant make it. I know how that feels because my dad had knee surgery a month before our wedding and wasnt sure if he would be there...but I thank my lucky stars that he was. I think that you both have to agree and its great that your going to talk about it...so good luck on the date and i know you will work it all out. What if you just pushed it a month or two ahead this way giving the bridal party more time incase they did make plans? good luck.

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