Friday, May 28, 2010

We've decided...

to downgrade. A bit. So remember my last rant about our predicament? I want to thank you guys so much for your support. In spite of never having met any of you, it's amazing how much your support means to me. I felt so much better after reading all your comments.

Anyways, Mr. M and I had a talk and discussed our options:
1. We could postpone our wedding until our financial situation changes - (wah, wah, wah)
2. We could cut our guest list down dramatically
3. We could have a civil ceremony and a cocktail reception.

Option 1 was the least desirable one for me since I really want to get married now. Not just because of all the plans and projects done but I want to move on with my life. I want to get pregnant sometime this year, you see i'm 34 yrs old and I really don't want to be pregnant after 35. (personal choice.) We own a Co-op now but I want to buy a house. I don't want to be saving for a wedding a year from now or God forbid, even longer.

Option 2 was not practical since we sent out STDs and I think it's just plain rude to tell some people that they couldn't come and that we were cutting them out of the guest list, plus everyone on our guest list is special to us.

If you guessed that we went with option 3 ding, ding, ding. You're right. We decided that it was the best option for us. That way we won't lose our deposits on our venue (since we're self-catering), DJ, Baker etc. I'm so relieved and honestly a little calmer. I was seriously worried about trying to squeeze $1 out of 50 cents. There is so much less pressure now. I can still use almost everything that we already have. I will have to change a few things around but I won't need to get anything new or different per se. Mr. Muscle felt so bad for making me feel bad that I started to feel bad (ha, ha). He kept calling every few hours while at work yesterday to see if I was ok that I had to start reassuring him. I told him that it was ok and we would talk when he got home last night and we did. I have a really good man who does really  dumb things sometimes but I still love him. He's my hunny boy.

So all's well in the JEM household. Our plans continue and i'll keep you abreast about my cocktail reception plans. Thanks again lovely ladies and oh I told him that all my blogger friends were mad at him and he said to apologize for him and that he's an ass. I swear those were his words. lol



  1. I think you made a great decision, and I’m so happy you’re feeling better. Your wedding is going to be a fun and amazing day for you and your guests! :)

  2. Oh yay! I'm so glad you're still going through with the wedding. :) Times are tough right now and you've got to do what you've got to do.

  3. All the extra bells and whistles are not what is most important. Those you care about will be there and you can still have a beautiful memorable event.

  4. Excellent choice!! It's still going to be BEAUTIFUL! It's not about the decorations or the space you're in or how much money you spent, it's about YOU GUYS as a couple and it's obvious you guys are a great couple. Making a decision like this is really stressful and I'm so happy to see that you guys were able to cope and stay in love and excited :) CONGRATS on a less stressful affair focused on the RIGHT things :)

  5. I think this is a great idea! I'm glad you were able to come to a decision. I think your guests will have a wonderful time and I know you'll be happy to be married already! I wouldn't want to wait either...

  6. Awww. I love it! I am very glad you guys came to that conclusuion. I WISH we were doing a cocktail reception-food is a huge stressor right now. Glad to here things are okay now!

  7. Yay, I'm glad you're still going for it as scheduled. Receptions don't have to be big and all out to be tons of fun. I hope your day is fantastic :)

  8. Hooray!! I'm so happy for you! Can't wait to see how you plan it. ;)

  9. So glad you guys worked it out! Knew you would!


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